Bullying occurs at almost all ages of education, from preschool through high school and beyond. It can come in many forms, which is why it is sometimes really difficult to catch, and even more so challenging to address. When children are being bullied, they often experience embarrassment about bringing up the subject to their parents or peers, or even feel pressured not to speak up about it, for fear of retaliation or a variety of other factors that do not allow them to reach for help. Focusing on the verbal and nonverbal behavior changes within a child can make a big difference in catching bullying early before it has lasting effects on the victim. 

Below are some signs that a child may be experiencing a form of bullying:

1. Unexplainable lost or stolen items. A child who is experiencing bullying may have their belongings stolen from them or attempt to find excuses to explain where their misplaced items went. This could also include stealing items or money to give to the individual(s) that are bullying them. 
2. A noticeable change in their demeanor regarding school. They may be nervous or afraid to go to school in the morning. This could be seen in various different ways in children (a mysterious stomach ache, strange excuses to avoid school, etc). 
3. A change in their grades at school. Victims of bullying sometimes have trouble concentrating or are unable to do their work effectively due to the bullying. 
4. Any kind of major behavior changes at home that cannot be otherwise explained. Unexplained nervousness, loss of interest in activities, having trouble sleeping or eating could all be potential signs. 
5. The victim is bullying other children. This could seem like a strange way for a child to react to bullying, but it is in fact a large indicator that something has gone awry in their environment. 

When you notice the signs of bullying, it is okay to help advocate for them. Speaking to the child’s teachers, school counselors, or other trusted adults can aid in increasing the adult presence in their life to reduce bullying when it happens. This can be the first step in helping a child feel as though they are not alone. 

Bullying can also affect a child’s mental health and social system. Depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts are common effects of bullying. A mental health professional can help reduce those symptoms and help the child develop high self-esteem, confidence, and the necessary coping skills to handle any bullying they could be experiencing. 

At Embark Counseling Services, we work with children of all different backgrounds and situations. Reach out if you feel as though your child may be experiencing any of this and we can help!

Resources

National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children. (n.d.). Bullying and Cyberbullying. NSPCC. https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/bullying-and-cyberbullying/#1