The first day back to school is just around the corner and many families are gearing up for the “back to school jitters”. This silly phrase encompasses a lot of big symptoms including anxiety, avoidance, and defiance. Early preparation can help everyone feel more comfortable and ready to tackle the beginning of the school year.

Back to School Prep Steps:

Practice your school day routine now

Start with the bedtime routine. A lot of resistance comes when earlier bedtimes are introduced. Make sure to talk about all of the bedtime steps and give your children options to avoid power struggles. For example, does your child want to brush their teeth or their hair first? They will end up doing both, but these small choices empower your kids to take ownership of their own routine. ○

Mornings can be especially hard. Do some dry runs before the first day to allow your children time to get comfortable with the new routine.

Will your child be attending afterschool care? Or going to a family member’s house? Will your child ride the bus or be picked up by someone? Discuss this routine with your child and review it often to ensure your child feels prepared.

If possible, visit the school before the first day

Many schools have back to school events to welcome the students and families. If your school doesn’t host one of these events, visit the school to get your child familiar with the outdoor surroundings before their first day.

Send an introduction email to your child’s teacher and/or school

Along with introducing yourself, you can share your child’s strengths, challenges, and any skills that could be helpful. This includes coping skills your child prefers and struggles your child may not be able to vocalize on their own yet.

Review and update any IEP or 504 plans. Advanced preparation ensures the school has time to put all necessary resources in place, setting your child up for success before the year even starts.

If your child participates in any outside therapeutic services (ex: individual therapy, occupational therapy), connect the school with those service providers via email. Ensure all the proper release of information documentation is completed so they can work together to provide the best care to your child.

Take care of yourself – physically, mentally, and emotionally

Get good sleep, fuel your body with healthy meals, and make time for things that are important to you (going to the gym, spending time with friends, reading, etc.)

Get organized by putting together your schedule and to-do list early.

Find a positive mindset. The beginning of the school year can be stressful for all. Being intentional about having a positive mindset prevents adults from passing their stress along to the children unintentionally.

The beginning of the school year can be exciting and stressful at the same time. Make sure to celebrate all of the wins (big and small). Remember that transitions are difficult for everyone. And give your child and yourself a lot of grace and space to adjust and feel the big emotions during this time.